Friday, February 18, 2011

Finding the right wrong person...

“We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have. I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.
Let our scars fall in love.”

— Galway Kinnell


  1. That is so sad, but often enough, true.

  2. You think it's sad? Perhaps...but I think it makes a lot of sense as well. We are all flawed in some way and if we learn to accept our own flaws as well as someone else's then maybe we can finally be happy. The search for perfection would be endless otherwise.

    Perfect = boring in my opinion :)